Sexual Health And Fitness:
What is sex? Why do people have sex?
As you grow up you begin to feel attracted to certain people and want to express these feelings. Something happens in your body when you are with that person or are thinking about them. This is a different feeling from the loving feelings you have about other people. People express these feeling through doing things like holding hands, kissing, and other things that give them pleasure. Hugging and kissing your friends or your family is not sex. But hugging and kissing someone you are attracted to in a sexual way is part of sex.
How does it feel when you have sex?
If you have sex when you are ready for it, with someone you care about who cares about you, it feels good in your body and in your mind. But if you are scared or unwilling or not ready for it, it may not be a nice experience.Some people start smooching (deep kissing) and doing other things because their friends make fun of them if they refuse. Doing these things because of pressure from someone else can make sex feel quite horrible.Excited, warm, tingly, thrilled, pleasurable, gentle, loved, wanted, special, happy – these are some things that people feel when they have sex.
When can we start having sex?
People can start having sex when they understand what they are doing and are old enough to handle the after effects. Sex is more than a physical act and involves many other things like feelings and relationships. Sex between a man and a woman can also lead to having babies which, as you know, is a serious matter.
What is smooching?
Smooching is another word for deep kissing where you explore your partner’s mouth with your tongue.
How do men and women have sex?
People do different things with each other to express their sexual feelings. They touch each others’ bodies, hold hands, smooch, have intercourse, and do other things that feel good to them. Having intercourse means that the man’s penis goes into the woman’s vagina. After some time semen comes out of the penis. As you know, the semen has many sperms that travel into the woman’s body and can make her pregnant. The idea of smooching and intercourse and touching each other might seem a bit strange to you when you are young and you might wonder why people want to do this sort of thing. Sex is a normal and enjoyable activity that most adult human beings engage in.
What is oral sex?
Sometimes people like to kiss each other on different parts of the body. Oral sex is the name for any sexual activity done with the mouth and/or the tongue.
What is the meaning of homosexual? How do they have sex?
People can be sexually attracted to anyone. Different people feel different things and may be attracted to men or to women. People who are sexually attracted to others of their own sex are called homosexual.
Can you make out who is homosexual, bisexual or heterosexual ? Of course, you can’t…
People who are sexually attracted to people of the opposite sex are called heterosexual. And people who are sexually attracted to both sexes are called bisexual. Women homosexuals are called lesbians and male homosexuals are called gay. Sexual attraction as we have seen is different from love. If you love your best friend who is the same sex as you this does not mean that you are homosexual. Homosexual and bisexual people feel love and sexual feelings just like heterosexual people. They make love in different ways, doing different things with each other.
Why don’t people have babies every time they have sex?
People don’t have babies every time they have sex because the egg and the sperm do not always meet and mix or because the couple may be using something called a contraceptive, to prevent having a baby.
What is a virgin?
A virgin is anyone (male or female) who has not had intercourse.
What is masturbation?
When people touch themselves and get sexually excited and do things to their own bodies that give them sexual pleasure, it is called masturbation. Masturbation may involve rubbing, stroking and caressing one’s own genitals. It is a normal and natural activity, done by boys and girls, men and women. As long as people take care to not hurt themselves and do not let it interfere with the other things they have to do (like studies, games etc.) there is no harm in masturbating.
Is there any harm in deep kissing?
There is no harm in deep kissing as long as both partners are clean and do not have any infection, especially in the mouth.
Why do our thoughts change when we are 12, 13, 14?
This is something natural. At this time the body begins to become more mature and starts to prepare itself for future sexual activity. Along with changes in body size and shape, there are also changes in the hormones. Part of growing up means that our ideas and interests also begin to develop and change. We become more conscious of ourselves, our bodies, what we feel, want to feel more ‘grown up’ and start experiencing sexual feelings. We also start getting attracted to people, notice how they look, wonder if they will pay any attention to us and want to be noticed by them.
When you see a romantic song or movie it feels like something coming out in the panty. Why does it happen?
When you see something that is romantic or sexy or exciting it is absolutely natural to feel something happen in you body. Some people feel their heart beat increasing, or feel sweaty, their pulse might race, they feel a tingle in some part of the body, girls might feel a slight wetness in the vagina and boys might have an erection accompanied by semen coming out. During the teen years because the body is just getting used to these new sensations, sometimes you might find yourself reacting like this quite suddenly. With time, you will be more in control of these physical feelings.
Can girls and boys be best friends?
Of course they can. Girls and boys can be very good friends with each other as long as they respect each other as human beings.
Do boys have a stomach-ache when the semen comes out?
Semen coming out of the body is not like girls having periods. Boys don’t have a stomach-ache when semen comes out. But sometimes they might have a feeling of tension in the penis or testes because of sexual excitement. This is not a pain, but because it is a new feeling, they may not know what to call it.
Why do we feel bad about our bodies and the way we look, as we grow older?
The way we feel about our bodies and our looks is called body image. It’s what we see when we look in the mirror and how we feel inside our own skin. Some people accept themselves as they are while others dislike just about everything to do with their looks. Each person is unique and special. A positive attitude about yourself will help you feel better about yourself and the way you look.
How does a woman know when she is pregnant?
A woman who has been having regular periods stops having her periods when she is pregnant. So if a woman who has sex does not get her period this might be a sign that she is pregnant. To be sure that she is pregnant she needs to have a pregnancy test, because sometimes her periods can also stop because of illness or tension.
Can a 13 year old girl become pregnant?
A girl who has started having her periods can become pregnant if semen enters her vagina. Also, if a girl has not yet begun to get her periods but will start having her periods from that month onwards, she can become pregnant if semen enters her vagina.
Do I have to have sex when I grow up? Isn’t it dirty and wicked?
You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. Sex is something that is enjoyed only if it is done out of free choice. Right now it might seem quite strange to you but later you might change your mind. That’s OK. Sex is a way of expressing ourselves and our feelings. It is not dirty or wicked.
Men’s Sexual Problems
In the narrowest sense, male sexual difficulties involve getting or keeping an erection, ejaculating too rapidly, or difficulty reaching orgasm. What is hard enough, fast enough, and time enough (or too long) is best decided by the people involved, rather than by a clock or some arbitrary standard. When you are deciding, keep the following in mind:
- Most men experience difficulty with erections, rapid ejaculation, or delayed ejaculation at some time, and this is entirely normal. When it is frequent or pervasive, one partner or the other usually decides this is a “problem.”
- Uneven sexual desire and dissimilar preferences in sexual style are normal and inevitable in long-term relationships. It is how you handle these that makes the difference.
- Do not confuse the average guy with the Energizer © Bunny. Many men have low sexual desire, too. Just like women, lots of men know what it is like to feel pressured by their spouse’s larger sexual appetite.
- Men’s sexual difficulties usually decrease intimacy, too. When either partner has frequent dysfunction or low desire, both partners eventually retreat during sex into separate mental worlds of worry and frustration. Mind-reading during sex is not quite “the most intimate thing two people can do.”
